Code of Ethics

Confidentiality

We keep student information private and confidential.

• We don't share who participants are if discussing an issue that arose in our space
• We don't share contact details without explicit consent
• We invite confidential containers in all workshops covering intimate material
• We do not share the personal history or disclosures of a student with a group without their explicit consent
  
  

Scope of Practice

We are facilitators of embodiment, sacred sexuality, and conscious intimacy — not therapists, counsellors, or licensed mental health practitioners.

• We do not advertise our work as "trauma healing" unless the facilitator has expert-level additional trauma training and relevant credentials. We understand that advertising this claim without those credentials is not a trauma-informed approach and can bring in people outside our scope.
• We do not teach or guide practices we do not feel confident in or have genuine experience with. We recognise the difference between scope of practice (what our work covers) and scope of competence (what we are genuinely skilled to deliver).
• We are mindful during onboarding to make participants aware that what we offer is not therapy and is not appropriate for everyone. We discuss contraindications where relevant.
• We actively refer out to licensed mental health practitioners when something arises in a workshop that is beyond what we can appropriately hold.
• We do not give medical advice. If someone presents with concerning physical or medical issues, we encourage them to see a professional.
• We aim to provide variations and options for people with varying physical fitness and abilities, and recognise there is no one-size-fits-all approach.
  
  

Consent & Freedom of Choice

Ongoing consent is foundational to everything we do — not a box to check at the start of an event.

• We always allow participants to choose whether to engage in any and all offered practices. Coercion, peer pressure and ultimatums are never acceptable.
• Participants always have the right to opt out, alter a practice, or leave a workshop at any time. We may invite them to speak with a staff member before leaving but do not require explanation or justification.
• Participants are not pressured to work with people they don't want to work with. Discussions of biases or resistance may come up, but participants are free to choose. 
• We recognise that saying no is a practice in itself, with genuine healing value — especially for those prone to fawning and people-pleasing. We celebrate the no.
• Consent discussed at the start of an event or practice does not carry forward indefinitely. We re-consent as practices shift, as the container deepens, and as participants' states change.
• We are especially attentive to the heightened suggestibility that can arise in breathwork, ecstatic states, trance, and ritual — and hold a higher standard of care around consent in those contexts.
• We promote risk-aware facilitation and informed consent. Participants should be aware of any risk and what will happen in a practice before so they can freely opt in or out. Scope of intensity at an event should be transparent before signup. 
   

Sex, Relating & Professional Boundaries

• We do not engage in sexual or romantic contact with students within our professional containers or with ongoing students.
• We create clear agreements around reasonable timeframes for any potential romantic or sexual contact after the close of a container — timeframes appropriate to the depth and intensity of the work, the maturity of the student, and with check-ins with fellow team members and the person in question about power dynamics, unconscious shadows at play and appropriateness. We recognise power and projection are very real and alter consent, and take appropriate means to discourage these encounters and be sure that any persued in future times are in integrity and with full consent and transparency. 
  (For example, a long-term student would be a no for any romantic entanglement. A student who is 30+ from a 3 hour workshop may require a month wait period and a full check in. A mature student from a retreat may be a 6 months+ wait period plus mediated power differential discussion and consensus from various team members based on various factors such as age, experience level etc.)
• If we already have an erotic or romantic connection with someone attending one of our spaces, we disclose to the group that the connection preceded the event.
• Where practitioner and student share a community, social contact outside the professional container remains ordinary and unexceptional.
  
  

Conflict of Interest

We proactively name any potential conflict of interest when someone enters our space — a former partner, a close friend's ex, a family member, or anyone whose presence might affect our ability to hold space with full neutrality. We seek peer reflection in ambiguous cases rather than quietly continuing. 

Altered States & Energetic Safety

We recognise that the work we do — breathwork, ecstatic ritual, trance facilitation, temple spaces — can induce non-ordinary states of consciousness. These states carry specific ethical responsibilities:

• We understand that participants in heightened or altered states may have greater emotional openness, vulnerability, and suggestibility
• We do not use these states to direct, influence, or exploit participants' choices or experiences for personal gain- whether erotic or financial.
• We ensure adequate integration time and aftercare following intense processes — integration is an ethical responsibility, not an optional extra
• We maintain our own regulation and sobriety while holding these spaces
  
  

Responsible Space Holding

In our paid, for-profit events we hold our role as space holders and do not get lost in our own participation, play, or personal process while people are in our care. We remain available to do our job and take care of the space.

In donation-based or communal spaces this does not apply in the same way, and we are clear about which role we are in at any given time.

Honesty & Representation

• We represent our credentials, training, and experience accurately
• We do not make false claims about qualifications or imply training we have not done
• We do not create unjustified expectations about outcomes or results in our marketing
• We aim for ethical marketing practices throughout — honest, clear and in good faith
  
  

Honouring Expectations

While flexibility is welcome in live workshops, we do our best to deliver what was sold. If something promised cannot happen, we offer a replacement and communicate openly. We are willing to offer partial refunds when participants are genuinely dissatisfied with a material change.

Honouring Identity

We use people's correct pronouns and chosen names. We allow people to identify in whatever way they choose and believe them — while recognising we are all more complex and multifaceted than any identity can encompass.

We actively work to avoid assumptions based on gender, race, sexuality, or body. We repair harm if we cause it, and welcome being told when we've got something wrong.

Dismantling Patriarchy & Honouring All Bodies

We recognise that much of the wounding we work with in sacred sexuality spaces has roots in patriarchal, colonial, and shame-based systems that have shaped how we relate to our bodies, our desire, our gender, and each other. This work is inherently political — we don't pretend otherwise.

We are actively committed to:

• Centring gender-neutral approaches to sacred sexuality and erotic awakening wherever possible, creating space for people to explore their authentic expression beyond conditioned norms
• Welcoming and affirming all genders, orientations, relationship structures and bodies — queer, trans, non-binary, kinky, non-monogamous, neurodivergent, disabled, in larger bodies, and beyond
• Actively working to de-colonise our teachings — examining where westernised versions of Tantra and sacred sexuality have stripped practices of their context, appropriated lineages, or excluded the very communities those lineages belong to.
• Offering scholarship and accessibility options to support participation from marginalised communities when possible.
• Holding ourselves accountable when we perpetuate the systems we're working to dismantle — and repairing harm when we do

We don't claim to have this perfectly figured out. We are in ongoing learning and welcome honest feedback.

Accountability

We are open to accountability processes when someone feels harmed by our work. We take responsibility for harm caused and maintain a clear channel for complaints and concerns. If a situation is beyond our capacity to hold internally, we engage external support with certified conflict mediators. 

Eros Leadership Training graduates are expected to uphold a version of this code in their own practice. Behaviour that violates these ethics may result in the suspension or revocation of certification.

Ecological Ethics

We believe that how we relate to the Earth is inseparable from how we relate to our bodies, our pleasure, and each other. The liberation of Eros and the healing of our relationship with the natural world are not separate paths.

In our events and trainings we commit to:

• Choosing venues and spaces that prioritise sustainability — natural materials, land-connected settings, minimal environmental footprint where possible
• Offering primarily plant-based food at our events, with transparency around sourcing where we can
• Minimising waste — single-use plastics, unnecessary packaging, and disposable materials are avoided wherever feasible
• Encouraging participants and graduates to bring an ecological perspective into their own offerings — regenerative, land-connected, nature-aware facilitation is part of our broader vision
• Acknowledging the land and its traditional custodians when we gather, and holding a relationship of reciprocity with the places that hold our work

We see the body and the earth as mirrors of each other. Both have been exploited, extracted from, and denied their sacredness. Both deserve reverence, care, and a genuine commitment to repair.

Our Commitment to Ongoing Learning

We recognise this field is evolving. We commit to continuing our own professional development, seeking supervision and peer support, and remaining open to the evolution of ethical standards as our understanding deepens.